There is a longing that lives in all of us, a quiet ache to belong somewhere completely, to be seen without fear, and to rest in love that does not leave. In earlier reflections we explored what it means to find secure love, and how Jesus heals the patterns that cause us to strive or withdraw. We also talked about what happens when we do not feel secure, when the ache returns or the ground beneath us feels uncertain again. But even that journey was pointing us toward somethin

Even after we have known safety and glimpsed the beauty of secure love, there can still be moments that take the breath from our chest. Something shifts, a silence, a pause, a change in rhythm, and suddenly what once felt safe now feels uncertain. It does not take much. A delay in response. A tone that lands differently. A conversation that feels off. The heart begins to ache before the mind can even explain why. And in that ache, old questions stir. Am I safe? Have I done so

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” — 1 John 4:18 We were created to be held in love. Not just emotionally. Not just theologically. But experientially, at the level of the heart, the body, the spirit. We were not made to perform for affection or brace against rejection. We were made to be received. To rest. To exhale into the safety of connection that does not flinch when we are in need. But for many of us, that kind of love has felt foreign. Even fr

There are some hearts that long for love and fear it all at once. They want to be close but cannot stop bracing for the moment love changes. They ache to be seen yet flinch when affection draws near. Love has never felt simple; it has always carried the shadow of pain. This is the disorganised heart, the one that learned love and danger in the same breath. It reaches out and withdraws, pleads to be held and then runs for cover. It knows it needs connection but fears what it m

Some of us learned early that closeness costs too much. That love could change without warning, that it was safer to stand just far enough away to avoid being hurt again. So we built our safety in independence. We became the strong ones; reliable, capable, in control. We learned to meet our own needs because relying on others left us exposed, and we told ourselves that we were fine, that solitude was strength, that needing less meant hurting less. But even in the calm of self

When we come into the place of love with the Father, He pours His love into us in a way we have never known before. But His love does more than fill us, it purifies us. The love of God is so powerful that it exposes the true state of our hearts. It reveals our deepest needs, the areas we have tried to hide, the places we have covered with shame or self-protection. His love uncovers not to condemn, but to consume. He longs for us to be wholly shaped and moulded by His heart. F

There is an ache that sits deep within the human heart. It is quiet at times, almost hidden, but it never goes away. Some call it...

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What is Grief Grief is a natural and deeply human emotion, something every one of us will experience in different ways throughout our lives. We often associate grief with the death of a loved one, and while that is one of the most profound experiences of grief, it is by no means the only one. Grief arises in any area of life where there has been a cost. Where something of value has been lost, shifted, or left unfulfilled. That cost may come through sudden trauma, or it may ap

If you search my name right now — you may find it in all kinds of places in the world of deliverance ministry. My books… my teachings… all of it. You’ll see “inner healing” and “breaking strongholds” and “casting out demons,” etc… But what people don’t know (and I sure didn’t know) is why God took me into that world in the first place. And why He had me flip it completely upside down. When I first stepped into ministry back in 2020, I had one goal: help people get free becaus